JUST HAIR???

As I type this, I have a deep cut on my left thumb that prevents me from typing as fast as I'd like to. To be honest, I never really paid much attention or attached much importance to my left thumb until now. Until something drew my attention to it... 

And it made me wonder why do women pay so much attention to things that don't define them? Yes, this isn't really about my left thumb, it's about an unhealthy attachment to/obsession with hair. When a baby is born without hair, doctors don't pay much attention to that cause it will grow. When a baby is born without a thumb, now that arouses the doctor's curiosity.

Contrary to a lot of opinions, I am of the view that it's just hair. We have turned to a generation of hair whores. Natural vs Relaxed. Straight vs Curly. Short vs Long. Weaves vs No-Weaves. Good hair vs Bad hair. 

Don't get me wrong, I love changing up my hair style and I'm always telling my friends about a new regime I heard (lol). But I feel like we have let our hair define us. I never paid attention to the internal damage this hair obsession has done to us until someone very dear to me began to lose her hair due to an illness and I saw how it affected her confidence. Right there and then I realised that if I lost all my hair, I would be traumatized but thousands of people are losing their hair everyday to causes they can't control. We've hidden under "woman empowerment" to justify our obsession with hair. Are we really preaching woman empowerment when we fuss over our hair like it defines who we are. Does "beauty is skin-deep" not apply when it comes to our hair?

If you want to chop your hair off, start a healthy hair journey, go natural, wear 40" long weave or just 14", dye or bleach it...by all means, go ahead. But don't ever let your hair define you. Don't let it own your confidence...self worth. Don't let your hair own you! There's nothing wrong with talking about your hair. There's something wrong with letting your self-worth & confidence depend on the state of your hair...

Before you start fussing over your hair & giving orders on what others should do with their hair, think what message am I passing across to other women without hair? Am I empowering women or telling them that they are their hair? It's really just hair after all and you're more than what grows on your scalp. You're what grows within your heart.

India Arie sang it best when she sang about not being her hair

If you haven't, check out my recent post here

Lots of love,

When you finally find what's beautiful...

I always knew Easter wasn't about Easter eggs. I always knew it was about the life, death & resurrection of my Lord Jesus Christ. I couldn't hold back the tears reading about his death on Friday  All I kept thinking was he could have dealt with every single one of his attackers. He had that much power but He chose to sit it  out...to endure just to show me and you that He loves us so much. I'm so excited today that He rose again. He shows that death doesn't have the last word anymore. I bet the people thought once he died people would stop talking about Him, little did they know, it was just the beginning. Over 2000 years later, He is still been talked about and still brings joy and peace into my heart. oh, and it was not the nails that kept Him on the cross, it was LOVE that kept Him right there....

I love to play with different textures when I'm in the mood and I just loved the contrast my favourite skirt had with this pleather peplum. I wanted an ethnic feel so I added dashiki print sleeves to a vest I'm wearing on the inside and threw on my faux fur backwards because I'm a bit weird. But, who isn't?

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Missguided peplum top (Old) // Tap Designs Skirt // Ebay hi tops // Asos faux fur lapel

"God loves the world so much that He gave up His only Son, Jesus to die for us, so we never have to perish...once we accept His Son...His love, we are going to have everlasting life - John 3:16"

Lots of love,

My RICE Experience...

It's been a cold weekend here in Braddy-town. Non-stop snow from friday to saturday. For the past one month, I haven't had any appetite hence losing a considerable amount of weight and having dull skin. (Who knew your skin was affected by your appetite as well?) Anyways, I realised my appetite was coming back again and I planned to go to town on friday to stock up on food but due to the snow, I stayed home and tried to order pizza but they weren't delivering. So I went to bed hungry (I might have even shed a few tears. Lol). I woke up on saturday determined that it didn't matter how heavy the snow was, I was gonna go to town. And I set off with a list of ingredients for jollof & fried rice. Spent a couple of hours out in the cold holding way too many bags. I got home and started the process only to realise I forgot one vital ingredient - THE RICE. I contemplated just making pasta since I had a bit of that but I was like No, I want rice. So I braved the cold again for the 2nd time in one day and I got rice.

First of all, I've never been so excited to buy rice before. Secondly, it made me realise that we don't get results from convenience. If you want something so badly, you're gonna have to step out of your comfort zone to get it. Sometimes you're gonna have to brave the stormy weather, the voice in your head, the discouraging words of others and just do it. Sometimes you're gonna have to give yourself a little slap on the face to catapult you into the right frame of mind to achieve that which you want so badly. So the real question is how badly do you want it?

I was going through my blog reading list when I saw this lovely dress on Cyn's blog.  (I stalk her blog) and I was blown away. It was just too gorgeous. I had seen it on asos a couple of times but never really paid attention to it 'cause wiggle dresses are not really my thing. However, after seeing Cyn rock it, I ordered it straightaway (it helped that asos was doing 25% off for students). The dress came in other prints and I decided I would get ankara and sew it in other prints. Dresses like this need to be replicated. I picked this print due to the modern yet retro vibe to it. I figured if I cannot get out of my environment for a little holiday, I might as well dress like I'm on a little holiday. Don't you just love getting inspiration from other bloggers? (I know I do.) Check out Cyn's look here

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Asos dress (Similar here and here) // Bradford market clutch // Asos round glasses // Topshop neutral colour block sandals

"It only takes a little amount of yeast to permeate an entire loaf of bread. You call it a little sin? It's building roots in your life. Cut it off"

Lots of love,